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Tuesday, February 17, 2009

A Debate on Should Teens Be Involved in Relationships?

Recently, my parents have been suspecting me being involved in a relationship. They think i have one because of me being on the phone, and messaging with my friends often recently. Is messaging with friends and talking on the phone wrong? They always scold me about it. Is it wrong to keep in touch with friends? It's not like the old days, where the technology wasn't so advanced, handphones did not exist. And keeping in touch those days are different then the old days. It's a new era now. Parents should keep up with the latest technological advancements to at least understand what's their child doing.

And also, I do not understand why most parents, including mine are against of teens having a relationship at this age. They think that it's all cons, and no pros. To me, I think they are pros, just that they can't see it, because the cons seem so bad that it covers it. Parents should be more open-minded. And sms'ing' and talking on the phone doesn't mean you have one.

Let me start with the negative points first. Having a relationship when we are teens will mostly not last. I have had a girlfriend before, although I'm not proud to say I had one before. So, my advise to you is to stay clear of having "special" feelings for others. Treat everyone the same. Even though you like someone, just be best friends for now. Build a strong friendship, and when you are 19 or 20, you're more ready to start one special relationship. Having a relationship at this age can be rather disastrous too. I recently heard of a boy stabbing a girl due to relationship matters. But luckily for him, the girl demanded for compensation and did not lodge a police report. If she did, the boy's future would have gone done the drain. Having a relationship at this age would also mean spending more money for phone bills, gifts, etc... Boy! You're pocket will be lighter and without an income, you'd probably would find other means of obtaining cash, which is usually illegal ways. Sometimes, the boy and girl might take the relationship to another level, like having sex. I recently read on the newspapers that in Britain, there was a father at the age of 13! Imagine that! Having a special relationship will also reduce your mixing with friends that often. Because all the attention would be spent on her or him. You'll see less and less of your friends. That's what I experienced when I had one. Just be best friends for now. And see what the future awaits you.

But having a relationship has it's pros too. I know someone that has been together for quite some time now. I predict they will settle down and get married in future. Both of their parents are supportive of their relationship. One can help not but envy from afar. Why do some parents are supportive and some are not? Having a relationship is just like super super best friends. You're boyfriend or girlfriend is there to accompany you, share your happiness, your sorrow, etc... basically is to share your life with him or her. It's also a source of encouragement, fulfillment, happiness, joy, and many positive things. I would one day want to be with the one I love too.

Teens nowadays are getting involved in relationships, because either no one wants to listen to them, care to lend an ear to them, or they basically just want someone to love them. Sometimes, relationships start because there is no peace at home.

People should genuinely care about other people, like what I said in my last post. It's just not the right time to start a relationship now. Wait. Be patient. Surely there will be the prefect girl or boy waiting for you somewhere in this world that has more than 6.7 billion people. Build friendships. I have gotten involved in a relationship before, but I'm not proud I had one before, but full of regret.

11 comments:

Anonymous said...

You mention regrets... you said the one of the pros is having a best buddy... why the regrets.. the latter is an exception.. the fact that you mention regret probably indicates that your r/ship did not do you good... you are wise to realize that getting involved now is probably not the best thing for you. Your parents probably 'scold' you because they want the best for you. Look at it that way... things can only be better.

Anonymous said...

Be it teens or adults, getting in a relationship requires more than just the love for each other, you guys are compatible, many people see you guys will have a good future together (even parents from both sides agree), etc... To begin one, we have to consult God. Is this guy/girl the one that God has prepared for you? Despite all the good things mentioned above, if she/he is not the person that God has for you, then she/he is just not, no question about it. We have to remember that God's plans for us is not to harm us but to make us prosper. So in a big decision like this, pray to God for guidance and approval. Seek not only the advice from earthly people for God knows what or who in this case is the best for you.

Erny said...

Good post here.

Daniel Ting said...

thanks!

Nexus Lawrence said...

haiz...
nvm lar...
prove that to ur mum...XD

FZTeng said...

沒有什麼錯啦~
全部都看你自己怎樣想~
不要想這樣多~
dun worry,be happy~
yeah!!!

Daniel Ting said...

haha...

someone who cares said...

hey...cool down man...u sound upset....i know wat ur going through cause my parents are also the same towards tech....i have to pay my own phone bill through my own pocket money which i save from going hungry certain days of the week....so chill..not all parents understand what we're going through but God knows n he will have solutions 4 it....

well...i agree tt parents should take the effort to catch up wif tech....

well,i got so much to say but one last thing....God did say in Proverbs 18:22 "those who find a wife, finds a good thing and obtained favour of the Lord....so out of all the millions of ppl...u still have to search 4 her....dont wait 4 her to come to ur door step...=)

well,ur parents might get very fond of "TING TIME" but w=they will get use to it =)

cares,
someone u know =)

Lee said...

haha...i no need to worry about this cause i want be single haha..

GOD'S GRACE said...

someone who cares...i noe hu r u...

Daniel Ting said...

to someone who cares:
thanks. =)

to lee:
don't be so sure. u really dun like sunny?